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Staying Low to Keep Someone Down

Staying Low to Keep Someone Down

I know better than most what it can feel like to feel completely hurt, used, betrayed, overlooked, taken for granted.  You name it, I've felt it; As I'm quite sure that we all have.  The thing that I can say through all of that, is the one that has stayed consistent is me.  When people have done me wrong, I have never let that get in the way of my heart.  Yes it hurts now, but the one thing that I always remember, is at least I am not them.  Somethings that I have dealt with, I couldn't even think up doing to someone else.  My heart does not work that way.  And that is the thing about retaliation, you have to do something just as low as them to get even.  Maya Angelou said that in order to keep a person down, you have to stay down there with them.  One of the truest things I have ever heard.  I always tell people that they will not get a reaction out of me, because half of the time that is why people do the things that they do.  They want to get a reaction out of you or make you jump out of your character.  I refuse to give the satisfaction.  What your going to do, is spend the rest of your life without me, and watch as I continue to shine.  There is nothing more that I could ever do to hurt you, than to be alright without you.  No matter how hard it may be sometimes, and trust me it is one of the hardest, darkest things ever,  I let it go.  I do not get on social media and air all of my business, ruin property, set people up, etc etc.  In fact doing things like that would say a lot more about me then it says about the person I am retaliating against.  If a man breaks my heart, I cannot get on Facebook and bash him, then think my potential suitor is not going to look at things like that when he is considering me.  I will now be pegged as a bitter woman who spreads her business around, and that is not the case at all.  But all because I am trying to hurt someone back, I have really made a mockery out of myself.  I choose my battles very wisely, and most things I just let karma handle.

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